My son has had a my space page for about a year now. I monitor it nearly daily. It's been a great 'social' tool for him. Today he found out that I wrote a 'girl' friend of his and told her that her comments were inappropriate. He had all the 'right' reactions. He was embarrassed and angry with me. He expressed his concerns very well. He asked if I could just delete the comment and discuss the problem with him then he would talk to his 'friend.' I told him that would be fine. We must have talked for an hour about 'life.' In the end he told me that he has his own life and that he has to live it the best way he knows how. I am a disciplinarian but I will always give my son the right to be listened to. One of his teachers called today to tell me that the new semester started and that he'd like to see more of Raymond's efforts. He also said what a wonderful, polite boy he is. I told Raymond how proud we are of him; not just because he chooses to do the right thing; but because of the obstacles he had to overcome. I told him, "Raymond, you have no idea what you've become; you are a phenomenon to Mom." He shared with me how he picked his friends; that he made sure they were from nice families, etc. We've had them over and I've met their parents and he is right. He has had two sleep overs and is a very gracious host. He got the game "Rock Band" for Christmas (A very loud drum set, guitar and microphone). Anyhow, I just wanted to share about this 'my space' thing; it gets such negative attention but it's been a positive for us. His my space is set to private. I just marvel at his intellect and thought process. These next few years are going to be interesting to say the least. I just adore this kid. I was reprimanded him the other day and he was at my eye level ... next I'll be looking up to reprimand him! haha.

How wonderful for both of you that a conflict became a tool for discussion! A lot of parents of "normal" kids don't think to let it happen. I think because we see our children's struggles, we cherish it when they do something developmentally on-target, even if it's not exactly what we wanted. Good for you that you listened to him, and good for him that he has made himself some tools for making good friends!