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Hi everyone I am Tracy a married 36 yr old mum of two boys with Asd. My 6 year old Zak has aspergers and my 4 year old Kai, has more complex autism with alot of additional sensory needs. It can be quite challenging having two boys at opposite ends of the spectrum but our family are very supportive and especially my husband Lee, who is my rock in times of need.
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by Crofty on 07.04.08 - public - 75 visits
That's my youngest Kai.
Yesterday we went to visit a possible childminder for him to go 2 days a week during the big summer holidays. The idea is that for once I can focus on my other more able autistic son who often has to take a back seat because of his brother Kai's additional needs.
When we arrived at the childminders Kai proceeded to run backwards and forwards picking up things and throwing them. Her face was a picture!!!
I explained that at home he was quite active and we had removed as much clutter as possible for safety reasons and gave him soft play things which couldn't break anything. Although this lady had experience of working with an other autistic child at a much higher level than Kai, and also of working with twins with down syndrome we decided that she wasn't suitable. She would also have an 18 month old baby to watch as well while Kai was there and I was worried for it's safety.
As we left, my social worker told me not to be disheartened we would find somebody suitable for him but it could take a while as he needs a lot of supervision.
I couldn't help it I did feel disheartened, I just hope there is one good person out there for us who will accept him for what he is and want to and be enthusiastic at the idea of looking after him.
Fingers crossed!!
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LisaAKAmom
Posted on Sat, 5 Jul 2008
I'm right there with you....we finally qualified for Respite care....and well just because you get it...doesnt mean you can find anyone to actually do the Job...its soooo frustrating...so just wanted you to know...your not alone...but I love the term. Childminder...lol
Christopherrobinsmom
Posted on Sat, 5 Jul 2008
I know you will find someone you trust with your child. I had a hard time at first finding someone to keep Chris and Jonathan while I worked ( I am a single mom). The lady who does keep them watches them in my home and Chris loves her. She has been sitting them for over a year now. Chris doesnt say much, but when he feels the need, he hollars "Lana, Lana!" when she comes by. Her name is Alana. You might as well say she is like part of the family.
shannonj
Posted on Fri, 4 Jul 2008
I do think it is important to find someone that will embrace your child for who he is and not be daunted or overwhelmed.....Good luck with the search! I have a very busy and challenging son too, and we have been able to find wonderful help for him--so I know you can too. There really are some amazing folks out there.
Motherof4
Posted on Fri, 4 Jul 2008
I'll bet there is someone who'll be good for you and Kai. Keep looking! A friend of mine has found several really good people, but in order to find them, she had to look at many, many people who were wrong for her son's needs. It can be a long process, but keep with it! Life will get better once you find someone good.
